true love is the only just and holy war...

This morning I came across a blog belonging to the lead vocalist of Anberlin, and this article just seemed totally applicable to my circumstances, and is generally an awesome read. It's a post about love, but not in the utterly hopeless romantic view. He's real about it and the part of the article that affected me most is this (on starting off solo):

solo- i believe that there needs to be a point to finding oneself, a journey in solitude, away from ones family and friends where a boy becomes a man, a girl into a women. i think too many times girls never become women because they never leave the shelter of their father and instantly assimilate into the shelter of a husband, meanwhile never learning what it is like to live on their own under the shadows of responsibility, financial decisions, and most importantly their own individual passions. how is anyone going to make someone else happy until they themselves know what makes them happy? why do we pursue a lifetime commitment without knowing what they themselves want to accomplish in this lifetime? the Bible says "seek and you will find." in light of that there needs to be a time of seeking before one can inevitably find someone to spend the rest of their days with; and by seeking i do NOT mean seeking out someone to be in a relationship with, but seeking life on your own. in lamens terms (& like i have said before) do not look for mr. right until you have completelty devoloped mrs. right. in the same fashion do not pursue mrs. right until you have developed mr. right.

(don't mind the lack of capital letters... just read it for what it's worth)

Check out the rest of the post by clicking here, or the title of this post... and check out some of his other posts, they're really insightful.

Oh, and don't forget to check out Anberlin's music :D. (website or myspace)
"A Day Late" is an awesome song, acoustic version or normal... and "Paperthin Hymn" is a good introduction to their feel and sound. Also check out "(a symphony of) blasé" for a slower song...